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    <title>Refereeing Special Children</title>
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          <strong>By Randy Vogt for</strong>
          <em>Soccer America</em>
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          <br />
The Huntington Boys Club and Massapequa Soccer Club, both of the Long Island Junior
Soccer League, became the first formal soccer clubs to have Special Children's Programs
when they separately started programs in 1979. A year before, I became a referee.
As I have lived near both clubs for most of the past 34 years, it’s not surprising
that I have refereed their games and the games of other Special Children in TOPSoccer
(The Outreach Program for Soccer) plus also ref the Special Olympics every year.<br /><br />
Although I have never received a penny for officiating the Special Children, it’s
annually one of the highlights of my ref career. When refereeing, I’ve noticed mainstream
kids, instead of practicing for their upcoming game on the same or adjacent field,
attentively watch the Special Children instead and applaud every good play. 
<br /><br />
One of the Special Children named Craig Ludin, playing for the Huntington Boys Club
since he was a little boy, has received so many gold medals from the Special Olympics
in soccer and other sports that he’s been inducted into the National Jewish Sports
Hall of Fame, just like noted athletes Sandy Koufax and Mark Spitz have been. 
<br /><br />
The U.S. government is now ordering schools across the country to make “reasonable”
changes to sports programs so that Special Children can play -- or else create separate
teams for them. The new guidance from the Education Department issued this past winter
was hailed by advocates for Special Children and could do for them what Title IX did
for females. It’s great that Special Children are starting to receive the same opportunities
that mainstream kids and adults have always had. 
<br /><br />
Special Children’s Programs provide an opportunity for children who deviate from mainstream
kids in mental, physical or social characteristics to such an extent that they require
modified practices and services in order to develop to their potential. The question
certainly comes up from my colleagues who are assigned to officiate Special Children’s
games on what they should do.<br /><br />
As there are generally not as many Special Children playing as in a mainstream game,
most of the TOPSoccer or Special Olympics games I ref are small-sided games of 7v7
or 8v8 rather than 11v11 on a full-sized field. I have never seen soccer’s only complex
rule, offside, enforced with Special Children’s games although it might be on the
books of some leagues. 
<br /><br />
It’s very difficult to differentiate the skill level of some of the Special players
from mainstream kids while other kids are not nearly as advanced. For teams with kids
who are rather remedial, you would want to keep the team going to the same goal in
each half so the kids do not become confused which goal to attack in the second half. 
<br /><br />
Some leagues allow for kick-ins instead of throw-ins as a legal throw-in can be difficult
for some Special Children to execute. In any case, the ref in Special Children’s soccer
is more of a teacher than an enforcer and should not be too officious in determining
illegal throw-ins and should clearly explain decisions that need to be made. 
<br /><br />
Handling fouls should be not be whistled unless they are very obviously deliberate. 
<br /><br />
One of the challenges in refereeing Special Children comes from very different abilities
and sometimes different ages and sizes of players being on the same field since there
are not as many Special Children as mainstream kids. Another challenge is a few Special
Children will display anti-social behavior from time to time. The coach knows much
more about that player and would probably be better trained for Special Children than
the ref so the ref should ask the coach to get involved in calming down the player. 
<br /><br />
I’ve actually even seen a few Special Children trash talk while others will approach
me during a game and ask me how they are doing. To which I always say, “Great!” After
all, just being on a field running around and making friends is such a big step in
their lives. Hopefully, we will see more Special Children soccer games in the future. 
<br /><br />
(<em>Randy Vogt has officiated over 8,000 games during the past three decades, from
professional matches in front of thousands to 6-year-olds being cheered on by very
enthusiastic parents. In Preventive Officiating, he shares his wisdom gleaned from
thousands of games and hundreds of clinics to help referees not only survive but thrive
on the soccer field. You can visit the book’s website at preventiveofficiating.com/</em>)<br />
 
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    <title>What to Do About M's Father</title>
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    <published>2013-05-13T07:06:49.04-04:00</published>
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          <strong>By Donna Olmstead from <em>Soccer America</em></strong>
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The recent death of Salt Lake City, Utah, soccer referee Ricardo Portillo makes me
incredibly sad. There isn't a game on earth that is worth someone's life. I read that
his family says the parents of the 17-year-old keeper who hit him in the head should
bear some of the blame. I guarantee you that neither the parents nor anyone else on
the sidelines intended for Portillo's death to happen. But time and time again I've
watched negative energy result in unintended consequences. 
<br /><br />
We were at a U9 rec league soccer game Saturday. These kids are at the age where some
of them are beginning to show a real talent for soccer and the rest of them are just
having a good time running around in the sun. 
<br /><br />
One little girl, we'll call her M, should be on a competitive team. She has two older
brothers who practice soccer with her, and the lessons show in the way she moves,
handles the ball and watches the players around her. She's the team's top scorer,
of course. And she's a nice kid. 
<br /><br />
The coach is great with the players. He plays them evenly throughout the game and
encourages them with positive comments. He's not the type of coach who keeps his strong
players on the whole game with the object of winning. I wish we could clone him. 
<br /><br />
And I wish we could banish M's father to the parking lot. Actually, to a parking lot
in another county. Or state. 
<br /><br />
When a player whom M's father considers to be weak is playing defense, he snorts and
makes comments such as, "Well, now they'll score for sure." 
<br /><br />
When a player besides his daughter has the ball, he yells that they should pass it
to her. 
<br /><br />
And, with M's father on the sideline, who needs a coach? He knows everything about
soccer and "coaches" at the top of his lungs. 
<br /><br />
Besides not having a volume control, one of the problems with M's father is that he
really doesn't know everything about soccer. For example, when the keeper picked up
the ball outside the box, M's father yelled, "Penalty kick!" Of course it was just
a hand ball, but he really didn't want to hear that. 
<br /><br />
I'm not sure how to handle parents like him. Sitting at the other end of the field
helps me a little, but it doesn't do anything for the parents around him whose feelings
he's hurting. He simply goes into his own world when the game begins and becomes unconscious
of everyone else. 
<br /><br />
Because at this age the kids still are shorter than the parents, they get to run through
a "parent tunnel" at the end of the game. And they love it. It doesn't matter who
won or lost, they run through smiling while the parents yell encouragement. Then everyone
gets a treat. 
<br /><br />
We tied this game 4-4. When M's mom told her husband it was time to form the tunnel,
he looked at her and said, "They don't deserve a tunnel. They didn't win." And he
picked up his chair and walked off the field. I hope M didn't notice that he wasn't
there. 
<br /><br />
I don't know how to handle M's father. Actually, I know I can't handle him. And I'm
pretty sure he doesn't realize that the negative energy he is sending to the players
and to the players' parents will have unintended consequences. At the very least,
he's ruining the game for the people close enough to hear him. Let's just hope that's
as far as it goes.
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    <title>It Comes Back to the Parents</title>
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    <published>2013-05-09T06:54:54.973-04:00</published>
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          <strong>By BRADY McCOMBS, Associated Press</strong>
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SALT LAKE CITY (AP) — The oldest daughter of the Utah soccer referee who died Saturday
a week after a teenage player punched him in the head hopes to forgive the young man
who did it — but not yet.<br /><br />
"I will, but not today; it's too soon," said Johana Portillo, 26, speaking Sunday
night at a vigil to honor her father, Ricardo Portillo. "He was a father, he was a
friend, he was a grandfather; he left a whole family behind. They should think before
they do something stupid."<br /><br />
Police have accused a 17-year-old player in a recreational soccer league of punching
Ricardo Portillo, 46, after he called a foul on him and issued him a yellow card.<br /><br />
Portillo died Saturday night after a week in a coma.<br /><br />
Nearly 100 family and friends gathered at a candlelight vigil Sunday night on the
front lawn of the Salt Lake City home of Ricardo Portillo. Wearing white shirts and
holding signs that read, "In loving memory of Ricky," family and friends stood around
a table that had a picture of Portillo raising his arms in victory, with flowers and
candles surrounding it.<br /><br />
The suspect, whose name is withheld because he's a minor, has been booked into juvenile
detention on suspicion of aggravated assault. Authorities will consider additional
charges since Portillo has passed away. An autopsy is planned. No cause of death was
released.<br /><br />
Johana Portillo said Sunday she doesn't care what punishment the teenager gets — saying
nothing will bring her father back.<br /><br />
"When he did that, he took a part of me with him," she said, crying. "He took my daddy
away from me."<br /><br />
She added: "I feel sorry for him. I feel for his family. But if he was old enough
to do what he did, then he's responsible to pay for it."<br /><br />
Pedro Lopez, his brother-in-law and a fellow soccer referee, said the teenager made
a mistake and isn't solely to blame. He said he's been involved in soccer his entire
life, playing and refereeing, and seen a troubling trend emerge.<br /><br />
"It's not the ignorance of the child, it's the poor manners of the parents," said
Lopez in Spanish, who played soccer professionally. "The yells and insults from the
sideline from the parents make kids more violent."<br /><br />
Lopez, Johana Portillo and youth soccer coach James Yapias called on athletes around
the world to hold their tempers in check so another family doesn't have to suffer
— and to bring something positive from Ricardo Portillo's death.<br /><br />
Yapias, a longtime friend of Ricardo Portillo coach in the same league, said coaches
and parents need to do a better job teaching children about sportsmanship and being
non-violent. He also called for more police presence at games. Portillo's death is
a reminder that life can change in a second, he said.<br /><br />
"We all love this sport," Yapias said. "But we all need to respect the rules."<br /><br />
Johana Portillo said she hopes her father's death leads to more security at sporting
events and better self-control from players. She said her father had been attacked
by players twice before in his eight years refereeing soccer matches — even having
his ribs and legs broken.<br /><br />
Lopez said players need to respect referees and remember it's a sport meant to relieve
stress — not cause pain.<br /><br />
"Remember that we are human beings, and we make mistakes," Lopez said in Spanish.
"Don't take justice into your own hands."<br /><br />
The former professional soccer player said he plans to continue working as a referee.
He said leaving it behind would be abandoning his passion. He said he'll do so remembering
Ricardo Portillo.<br />
Ricardo Portillo's daughters had begged him to stop refereeing in a soccer league
because of the growing risk of violence from angry players. But, like Lopez, Portillo
told his daughters he couldn't quit.<br /><br />
"It was his passion," she said. "We could not tell him no."<br /><br />
Now his three daughters are faced with planning his funeral after he succumbed to
injuries late Saturday that had put him in a coma for a week since teenager goalie
punched him in the head.<br /><br />
Accounts from a police report, Portillo's daughter and others offer further detail
what occurred.<br /><br />
The teenager was playing goalie during a game at Eisenhower Junior High School in
Taylorsville when Portillo issued him a yellow card for pushing an opposing forward
trying to score. In soccer, a yellow card is given as a warning to a player for an
egregious violation of the rules. Two yellow cards lead to a red card and expulsion
from the game.<br /><br />
The teenager, quite a bit heavier than Portillo, began arguing with the referee, then
punched him in the face. Portillo seemed fine at first, then asked to be held because
he felt dizzy. He sat down and started vomiting blood, triggering his friend to call
an ambulance.<br /><br />
When police arrived around noon, the teenager was gone and Portillo was laying on
the ground in the fetal position. Through translators, Portillo told emergency workers
that his face and back hurt and he felt nauseous. He had no visible injuries and remained
conscious. He was considered to be in fair condition when they took him to the Intermountain
Medical Center.<br /><br />
But when Portillo arrived to the hospital, he slipped into a coma with swelling in
his brain. Johana Portillo called detectives to let them know his condition had worsened.<br /><br />
That's when detectives intensified their search for the goalie. By Saturday evening,
the teenager's father agreed to bring him down to speak with police.<br /><br />
Johana Portillo said she last spoke to him that night before he fell into a coma.
She grabbed his hand and told him he was going to be all right. He held her hand tightly
and said, "no." Within seconds, doctors ushered her out of the room and he lost consciousness.<br /><br />
She said Sunday night, with tears streaming down her face, that her father will always
be in her heart.<br /><br />
"It's going to be very difficult," she said. "But I know he's going to help us from
heaven."<br />
 
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    <title>Things My Mother Never Said to Me</title>
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          <strong>by Tony Earp for <em>Soccer America</em></strong>
          <br />
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truly believe nobody accomplishes anything on their own. Success is a combination
of individual effort and surrounding yourself with the right people who will influence
your life in the correct way. I was fortunate enough to have a mom who loved me dearly
and would do anything necessary to make sure I had the best chance to be successful.
As a kid, my success on and off the soccer field was a direct result of a lot of hard
work (because I am not overly gifted in any capacity), and the discipline instilled
in me by my mom in every aspect of my life.<br /><br />
My mom would often say to me, “You can only control what you do.” With this in mind,
she rarely ever allowed me to blame other people or look anywhere but internally on
the reason for, or the result of, my actions. This is a tough thing to stick by because
there are a lot of times in life that you do everything you are supposed to and things
do not work out the way we want. It is usually at those times we look for external
reasons for “why” and will point blame to a person, group, or organization. My mom
would never allow me to do that. She always refocused me to learn from the experience
and work harder the next time around.<br /><br />
It may have been different times when I was a kid, and I will never tell a parent
how to raise a child or to not step in when their child is being treated unfairly.
All parents have the urge to protect their child and want their child to have the
best opportunities to be successful. But when do parents step in too much? Even with
the best intentions, by parents protecting their kids from negative situations, they
can create situations for their kids that actually will have long-term negative effects.
On the surface, it looks like the right thing to do, and may have a short-term benefit,
but will have negative effects on the child moving forward.<br /><br />
As a soccer coach, I hear a lot of things said by parents to me or their kids that
my mom never said to me growing up. I attribute my success on the field to my mom
avoiding these comments and not allowing me to make excuses or justify disappointment
in the wrong way. By avoiding the comments below, my mom forced me to always focus
internally and never make excuses for myself or others. My high school team won 3
state championships, I received a full scholarship to play at Ohio State University,
I was a four year starter for the Buckeyes, and captain my senior year. I am convinced
the only reason I made it to that level and had success, not being overly athletic
or talented, is my mom forced me to take responsibility for everything that happened
to me on and off the field. Her most common advice to me was, “work harder next time.”
The sentiment stuck.<br /><br />
Below is a sample of comments I hear all the time. As a coach, I cringe every time
I hear them. Maybe because I never heard them growing up from my mom.<br /><br /><strong>“My child is not being challenged enough.”</strong><br />
My mom never said this to a coach when I was growing up. If I ever came home from
a training session and said, “Practice was easy today,” my mom would reply, “Then,
you did not work hard enough.”<br /><br />
She did not even humor the idea that maybe I was not being pushed hard enough by the
coach or the coach was making me do training activities that were “below my level
of play.” Her immediate reaction was to let me know that how hard I worked was completely
under my control. If I felt practice was easy, I just did not put forth enough effort.
Case closed.<br /><br />
Am I taking the coach completely off the hook, absolutely not! It is critical for
coaches to try to challenge every player and push them to excel. But being challenged
is more internal than it is external. For example, if an athlete is asked to run a
mile, it may not be a challenging distance for the athlete. The player may be in great
shape so a mile run is not challenging at all (on the surface). If the player wanted
the mile to be challenging, all the player would need to do is try to run the mile
as fast as possible, maybe try to break his/her record, or to put it simply, the player
would make the choice to make the activity challenging.<br /><br />
My point is players can control how challenging any activity or environment can be
for them. Playing with more skilled or less skilled players, doing complicated or
simple training activities, or the duration of activity are not the only reasons something
is challenging.<br /><br />
Many parents reaction to a child indicating they are not being challenged it to search
out other types of training or a higher level team. I am not saying this is not a
good idea at times, but at times it is a quick fix to a deeper issue that goes unaddressed.
The child does not put forth the effort required and the reason for that is being
put on everyone else but the child. In time, this will hurt the kid’s ability to continue
to develop down the road. Anytime a situation is not “ideal” for the player, the excuse
of “I am not being challenged enough” will be an acceptable reason for their lack
of success and effort.<br /><br /><strong>“My child should play in a different position.”</strong><br />
I came home from a game when I was 13 and told my mom that I think I should be playing
forward. Up until that season, I had always played forward and did very well. This
coach however felt I was better in the midfield. When I expressed my frustration to
my mom, she politely listened but did not give me her opinion or express concern about
me playing the new position. My team was having a hard time scoring goals and I was
certain I could make more of an impact playing as a forward where I can score more
goals versus playing in the midfield. I added the fact that I did not feel as comfortable
in the midfield as I did as a forward.<br /><br />
When my mom got tired of hearing me complain about my position with the team, she
said something that I will never forget. She cut me off in mid-complaint and sternly
said, “Are you a good player?” Stunned by the question, I stuttered, “y-ea.” She moved
to eye level with me and said, “Then it should not matter where you play. If you are
really that good, you can be great anywhere on the field. If you can’t, then you have
more work to do.”<br /><br />
Again, my mom took my complaint that I was being cheated out of playing my best by
my coach’s decision and turned it right around on me. Her point was not subtle and
quick to the point. I was an upset teenager by my mom’s lack of support and apathetic
attitude towards my displeasure with the team, but deep down, I knew she was right.
Although not easy to accept and it meant more work for me, I was ultimately in control
of how well I played. With a slight change in my attitude and a refocus back on what
I can do to improve, I did what was necessary to find success in the new position.<br /><br />
It should be noted I played center mid in college.<br /><br /><strong>“My child should have made that team.”</strong><br />
There were several occasions when I was a youth player that I was not selected for
a team. There were times I know I did not deserve to be on the team, but there were
other situations where I knew the coaches made a mistake or I was overlooked in the
process. Although the disappointment was tough to bear at times, I know it helped
me deal with adversity later on in life.<br /><br />
When I would vent to my mom, she was a great sounding board and she allowed me to
get out everything I needed to say to let out my frustration with not making the team.
She was very supportive and always tried to make me feel better. But, she NEVER told
me I should have made the team.<br /><br />
My mom would tell me I am a good player and I worked very hard during training, but
she never told me that I got looked over, it was not fair, or some other player was
wrongly selected over me. All she told me was “next time, do more to make sure they
HAVE to take you.” Again, although deep down she may have felt I did get over looked
or it was “political”, she never let me know that. She felt it was more important
for me to view it as a challenge to work harder the next time around and continue
to get better.<br /><br />
My mom could have complained to the coaches and pointed out how her son played for
this team or was much better than this player. My mom could have accused the coaches
of taking players they “liked” or “knew” from their own teams. My mom could have never
let me try out again in protest to the gross injustice suffered by her son. But my
mom never did any of that. Was she unsupportive? Was she not sticking up for her son?<br /><br />
In actuality, I think my mom was looking out for me. She wanted me to learn how to
deal with disappointment and respond in a way that would help me not just in soccer
but with other challenges I would face in my life. As we all know, life is not fair
and at times we do not get what we probably deserve. Many respond by just pointing
blame and deciding not to every try again because it will most likely end up with
the same result. Others decide to work harder and use what they learned from failing
to their advantage the next time around. Which one are you? If you are the latter,
you should probably pick up the phone and thank your parents.<br /><br /><strong>“I will talk to the coach.”</strong><br />
Nope, never, not going to happen… if I had an issue with a coach, I always was forced
to discuss it with the coach. My mom never stepped in and expressed concerns for me.
I asked my mom why she always made me talk to the coach. Her response was not what
I expected.<br /><br />
In short, my mom said to me she would never talk to the coach about what he was doing
on the field because she would never expect him to talk to her about what she was
doing with me at home. It was a simple point and again a very good one. Can you imagine
if your soccer coach knocked on your parents’ door and gave them suggestions how to
be better parents? Her view was that he was the coach and she was the parent. She
will do what she thinks is best for me and the coach will do what he thinks is best.
Both will make mistakes and will need to learn from those errors.<br /><br />
With that in mind, my mom gave me the responsibility to discuss issues with my coach
or any adult I felt it was necessary. When I was younger, she would go with me, but
would still make me talk. I know there were times she may not have agreed with the
coach but she would never express her disagreement to me. Why? Probably because as
soon as I knew my mom did not respect the coach’s decision, she knew I would not respect
the decision either. She would be giving me the “green light” to dismiss the coach
anytime I did not agree with him.<br /><br />
There a lot of lessons my mom was teaching me by doing this, but I will not go into
them all. Outside of taking responsibility and learning how to bring up concerns to
people of authority in a respectful way, the most important lesson was probably the
least obvious. By my mom refusing to talk with the coach, it made me really decide
if my concern was important. When a parent will quickly bring up an issue with a coach,
a player will be more likely to bring up every little thing seen as an issue with
the parent because the parent will discuss it with the coach. When the kid is forced
to have the discussion, the child will be a little more selective about what a REAL
issue is and what is not.<br /><br /><strong>“You are better than that player.”</strong><br />
I would ask my mom if I was better than player “x” or player “y” because those players
were getting more playing time than me or playing in a position I wanted to play.
Whether I was better or worse did not matter much to my mom, or at least, she never
made it the focus of the rest of the conversation.<br /><br />
In my mom’s heart she probably thought I was the best player to ever wear soccer cleats.
She loved watching me play and thought very highly of my ability and potential on
the field, but she NEVER compared me to another player. She would let me know when
I had good days and bad days, but she would not compare me to any other player on
the field. There were no coaching points or suggestions on how to play better, but
she would be honest about my level of play. Normally the comments would be limited
to things like, “I have seen you play better” or “it just did not seem like your day.”
On the positive side it would be limited to, “You worked very hard today” or “It was
a lot of fun to watch you play.” She always made it just about me, positive at times
and negative at other times. She was not afraid to let me know when it was not my
best effort, but never slow to let me know I played well.<br /><br />
Honestly, I am not sure if I know how my mom felt about any of the players I ever
played with. She never gave me specific feedback about any players on the field. Her
comments about the rest of the team would be very general. She would always refer
to the team and never about individual players. After games I would hear, “the team
looked great” or “the team seemed a step slow today.” This continued all the way through
college.<br /><br />
My mom just focused on me most of the time. I was her focus and none of the other
kids were her responsibility. She never spoke about me to other parents or talked
about other players with other parents. Although parents may ask, my mom deflected
the questions and avoided those types of conversations. It just was not her concern
and made a choice not to allow herself to be part of those discussions.<br /><br />
This kept me focused on me. We are quick at times to justify how well or poor we are
doing based on others around us. My mom forced me to measure myself against myself.
When using other players to decide how well I did can dangerously lower, or raise,
my expectations for myself. It can create a false sense of success or a false sense
of failure, depending who I would measure myself against. We all compare ourselves
to others at times. It is unavoidable. But when you cut through all the distractions,
you should measure success or failure against yourself. It takes a deep sense of awareness
and the courage to accept the fact you did your best or you never even really tried.
Both are hard to admit at times.<br /><br />
As parents and coaches, sometimes it is the things we do not say that have the biggest
impact on a child’s ability to be successful. Youth sports is not about the parents
or the coaches, it is only about the kids. It is their time to play, learn, and grow.
The kids need to experience success and failure, confidence and doubt, courage and
fear, anger and joy, and everything else that comes with playing sports. My mom allowed
me to experience them all. She did not shelter me from the bad or shower me with the
good, and I never got to take the easy road to where I wanted to go.<br /><br /><em>Now a successful soccer trainer and educator, Tony Earp was a standout player
both academically and athletically at The Ohio State University, earning multiple
honors both on the field and in the classroom. Tony's achievements included 2nd Team
All-Big Ten in 2001 and 2002, serving as Captain in 2002. Tony was named Most Inspirational
Player in 2001 and 2002, as well as achieving Scholar Athlete status in those same
years. Tony was a member of the 2002 MLS Draft Pool.</em></p>
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    <title>Peconic's Parma Earns Academic All-District Honors</title>
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    <published>2013-01-04T08:00:23.161-05:00</published>
    <updated>2013-01-04T10:25:46.5565401-05:00</updated>
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Kevin Parma, a native of Peconic, NY and former LIJSL player and Southold HS standout,
has been named to the 2012 Capital<img align="right" alt="" border="3" height="167" hspace="10" src="http://www.lijsoccer.com/images/ContentImage/Parma.jpg" style="border: 3px solid;" vspace="10" width="300" /> One
Academic All-District Team for NCAA Division III men's soccer, as announced by the
College Sports Information Directors of America (CoSIDA). Parma, a junior tri-captain
at Western New England College now advances to the national ballot for Academic All-America
team consideration.<br /><br />
Parma also received this award last season. This fall, he earned All-Commonwealth
Coast Conference accolades for a second time when he was placed on the first team
as a defender. With three goals and three assists for nine points--which ranked tied
for second for the Golden Bears--he became known as one of the most dangerous offensive-minded
backs in the CCC this season. A workhorse with a team-leading 1493 minutes played,
he has performed in the clutch as most of his points have helped either tie the game
or put WNE ahead.<br /><br />
Parma excels equally well off the field as he does on it. Carrying a 3.93 grade-point
average as a double major in accounting and finance, he is in the Western New England
Honors Program, has earned a Provost’s Scholarship Award, received a grant for leadership
and been inducted into the Alpha Lambda Delta Freshman Honor Society. His overall
GPA ranks second on the CoSIDA District I team that includes Division III student-athletes
from Maine, Massachusetts, New Hampshire and Vermont.<br /><br />
In addition, Parma has served on numerous community service projects and worked clinics
for local youth soccer teams.
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  <entry>
    <title>Test title from Steve</title>
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    <published>2012-12-20T11:54:41.965-05:00</published>
    <updated>2012-12-21T11:55:47.1264624-05:00</updated>
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      <name>Kaushalam</name>
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This is a test.
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        <p>
This is a test.
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        <p>
This is a test.
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Last line test.
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  <entry>
    <title>Should Refs Adjust Their Style to Fit Players?</title>
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    <published>2012-12-20T09:09:55.834-05:00</published>
    <updated>2012-12-20T09:09:55.8348303-05:00</updated>
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    <author>
      <name>Kaushalam</name>
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&lt;strong&gt;&lt;img align="left" alt="" border="3" height="70" hspace="10" src="/images/ContentImage/Vogt.jpg" style="border: 3px solid;" vspace="10" width="90" /&gt;By
Randy Vogt for &lt;em&gt;Soccer America&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Most youth soccer referees quit within the first couple of years of officiating with
verbal abuse by kids&amp;#39; parents being the No. 1 reason for quitting. But if they
can get through those critical first two or three years, refs will develop a reputation
and style, both of which will evolve over the years. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
My style as a ref is to call fouls a bit more conservatively than many of my colleagues
but to try to play the advantage clause as much as possible, in part so the game will
have a nice flow to it. With most fouls, I am looking to see if the player can play
through the foul. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Yet it&amp;rsquo;s extremely important that I communicate that I&amp;rsquo;m playing the advantage
to help prevent retaliation. The signal being both verbally by yelling &amp;ldquo;Play
on!&amp;rdquo; and physically by extending the arms with an upswept gesture, starting
with a position below the waist and brought up to shoulder level. I will often even
briefly tell the fouled player afterward that I saw the foul and played the advantage
plus sometimes speak to the player who did the fouling as well. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
During the recent college season, I noticed many teams who I officiated were adjusting
their play to fit the amount of contact&lt;img align="right" alt="" border="3" height="134" hspace="10" src="/images/ContentImage/female ref.jpg" style="border: 3px solid;" vspace="10" width="200" /&gt; that
the officials allowed. Certainly on the pro level, the players are aware what that
ref will allow and will not. It will be nice when more and more youth teams adjust
their play to fit the way the game is being officiated. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
So if teams are adjusting their play to the officials, should the officials adjust
the way they are calling the game to the teams? My answer is certainly, especially
if the ref can sense during the game that there is broad agreement between the teams
within the Laws of the Game as to what is a foul and what is not. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
I still have the superb &amp;ldquo;Fair or Foul?&amp;rdquo; book, which helped me develop
as a ref at the beginning of my career. Authors Larry and Paul Harris use nine cartoons
on the different types of referees. The Facilitator is a happy man with a halo over
his head and wearing a badge that says &amp;ldquo;Goody Two Shoes.&amp;rdquo; According to
the cartoon, the Facilitator calls fouls commensurate with the level of play, covers
every inch of grass on the field (if necessary), is flexible, prevents problems before
they occur, is respected by the coaches plus compliments and complements his linesmen. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Try as I might, it&amp;rsquo;s too bad that I was not the Facilitator during a recent
high school game as I misread a bit what the players wanted. Two skilled teams were
playing and there was not anything going on from a discipline standpoint so the officiating
crew let the teams play. Any dissent, and it was a little at first, came from the
perception that a foul should have been whistled. There was no dissent at all after
fouls were given. There was little interest in playing through the foul except when
the fouled player was right near the opponent&amp;rsquo;s penalty area. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
I should have whistled a few more fouls and played the advantage less as that&amp;rsquo;s
what both teams wanted. In the second half, there were two cautions -- for dissent
as well as for unsporting behavior when a player showed little interest in playing
the ball. If I had read that game correctly, I believe that both cautions would not
have been necessary. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
(Randy Vogt has officiated over 8,000 games during the past three decades, from professional
matches in front of thousands to 6-year-olds being cheered on by very enthusiastic
parents. In Preventive Officiating, he shares his wisdom gleaned from thousands of
games and hundreds of clinics to help referees not only survive but thrive on the
soccer field. You can visit the book&amp;rsquo;s website at http://www.preventiveofficiating.com/)&amp;nbsp;
&lt;/p&gt;
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  <entry>
    <title>College Recruiting Starts Too Early</title>
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    <published>2012-12-12T23:33:56.516-05:00</published>
    <updated>2012-12-12T23:33:56.5162475-05:00</updated>
    <category term="college soccer" label="college soccer" scheme="http://blog.lijsoccer.com/CategoryView,category,collegeSoccer.aspx" />
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      <name>Kaushalam</name>
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&lt;strong&gt;Interview by Mike Woitalla for &lt;em&gt;Soccer America&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;em&gt;Steve Swanson, who guided the USA to the 2012 U-20 Women&amp;rsquo;s World Cup title
in September, has coached women&amp;#39;s college ball since 1990. After stints at Dartmouth
and Stanford, he has coached the University of Virginia since 2000. He spoke with
us about the perils of a recruiting system that has girls commit to colleges when
they&amp;rsquo;re still sophomores or 9th-graders. &lt;/em&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;SOCCER AMERICA: It&amp;rsquo;s become common practice for college coaches to offer
scholarships to 10th and even 9th graders &amp;ndash; and for players that young to commit
to a college &amp;hellip; &lt;/strong&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;STEVE SWANSON:&lt;/strong&gt; I think it&amp;rsquo;s one of the biggest potential problems
that college athletics has as a whole. It&amp;rsquo;s happening with our sport in particular.
We&amp;rsquo;re getting earlier and earlier. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
It&amp;rsquo;s a serious enough problem, the [college] presidents have to be involved. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
If this was strictly a job situation, who would make a $50,000 investment after seeing
a player play for five minutes, or one game in one tournament, three years out before
they go to that college? 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
That&amp;rsquo;s insane. But because we&amp;rsquo;ve gone down this road, because the ball
is rolling, coaches feel, &amp;ldquo;Hey, we&amp;rsquo;ve got to do this for us to stay up.&amp;rdquo; 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
It&amp;rsquo;s a disservice to student-athletes, to the parents, to the coaches. You&amp;rsquo;re
don&amp;rsquo;t have all the information. You&amp;rsquo;re going to make poor choices. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;SA: Considering how expensive it is to send a child to college, wouldn&amp;rsquo;t
one expect parents to be fine with their 14- or 15-year-old daughter accepting a scholarship? &lt;/strong&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;STEVE SWANSON&lt;/strong&gt;: Would you want your daughter to figure out who she&amp;rsquo;s
going to marry at 14 or 15? They don&amp;rsquo;t even know themselves. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
I get the financial side. But I don&amp;rsquo;t think there&amp;rsquo;s one person -- I don&amp;rsquo;t
think there&amp;rsquo;s a college sophomore who gets up in the morning, they go out, they
have a coffee, and they breathe in deep and they say, &amp;ldquo;I&amp;rsquo;m happy here
because I&amp;rsquo;m on a full ride.&amp;rdquo; 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
That ain&amp;rsquo;t happening. They get up in the morning and they&amp;rsquo;re happy because
they&amp;rsquo;re at the right place that fits with what they want, what their needs are,
on and off the field.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
My concern is we&amp;rsquo;re only doing this because of the finances. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
I see more and more people transferring. More and more decisions that are reversing
themselves because it wasn&amp;rsquo;t the right fit one way or the other. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;SA: Does this early-recruitment have a negative effect on the USA&amp;rsquo;s
effort to improve at the highest level of women&amp;rsquo;s soccer? 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
STEVE SWANSON&lt;/strong&gt;: One of my biggest concerns in our sport is we tend to rely
so much on the physical aspect. There are some other aspects that in the long run
are going to benefit more. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
The tough thing we have in college is we&amp;rsquo;re being asked to evaluate players
when they&amp;rsquo;re freshman in high school and pull this crystal ball out for four
years down the road, and say, &amp;ldquo;Hey here&amp;rsquo;s where you&amp;rsquo;re going to
be!&amp;rdquo; 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
I think any coach in our sport who&amp;rsquo;s saying where this player&amp;rsquo;s going
to be technically, tactically, mentally &amp;ndash; they&amp;rsquo;re just fooling themselves.
And I think we have to be really careful with that. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
The easy thing for a lot of college coaches, a lot of club coaches, is to go for the
physical side. You know what that&amp;rsquo;s going to be. It&amp;rsquo;s probably not going
to change that much. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
More often than not I think the selection process, the evaluation process is looking
at the physical. It&amp;rsquo;d be one thing if we were swimming or track. The college
coach says, &amp;ldquo;Hey you run the mile in 3:53, so I don&amp;rsquo;t care what your technique
is, how you run, because that&amp;rsquo;s better than any college runner I have right
now.&amp;rdquo; 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
But soccer is so much different. There are so many things that go into it.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
I worry about the kids. How much growth can happen between [high school] freshman
and junior years? You can see amazing amounts of growth. A freshman may believe a
mid-major college is about as good as they&amp;rsquo;ll get, but by their junior year
they&amp;rsquo;re unbelievable and now they want to challenge themselves and play in the
best conference.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;SA: I&amp;rsquo;ve heard one reason players so young commit to a college is to
get the process over with &amp;hellip; 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
STEVE SWANSON&lt;/strong&gt;: There&amp;rsquo;s a lot of pressure. It&amp;rsquo;s sad that for them
recruitment has gotten stressful. It should be enjoyable. It should be fun to explore,
go to schools. It&amp;rsquo;s become stressful and they just want to get the thing over
with.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
We don&amp;rsquo;t even have official visits. A student can&amp;rsquo;t make them until you&amp;rsquo;re
a senior. They&amp;rsquo;ve already made the decision two years ago. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
They visit all those schools on their own. The beauty of an official visit is I can
pay for you to come out here. Pay for you look at this school. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;SA: So players, because they pay their own way to visit colleges, may be less
likely to explore opportunities farther away from home? 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
STEVE SWANSON&lt;/strong&gt;: How would they know another option wouldn&amp;rsquo;t be a better
fit without visiting?&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;SA: The pressure to commit early is applied by the coaches because they want
to lock in who they think are the top players?&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
STEVE SWANSON&lt;/strong&gt;: If I really wanted you and was willing wait for you, I would
tell you that. Some other coach might say, &amp;ldquo;I&amp;rsquo;m moving forward here and
you&amp;rsquo;re going to have to make your decision.&amp;rdquo; There are a lot of coaches
out there pushing the envelope. They want to get a body into their program as soon
as they can. They want to get their recruiting tied up as soon as they can. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
In football you don&amp;rsquo;t wrap that kid up until they sign. Our sport is different.
We have this kind of collegial agreement if somebody verbally commits, that&amp;rsquo;s
it. The recruiting&amp;rsquo;s done. But a coach might gain a verbal agreement by less
than moral means. Maybe they say to a sophmore, &amp;ldquo;Here&amp;rsquo;s the scholarship.
You have a week to decide. I&amp;rsquo;m not going to let you look at other schools.&amp;rdquo;
I think there&amp;rsquo;s some things ethically wrong with that. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
This is the same person who, if you committed at a very early age, for financial reasons,
gets all upset if another coach came in to recruit -- even though that&amp;rsquo;s completely
within the rules. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;SA: What&amp;rsquo;s your advice for young players who are being pressured to
commit at a young age? 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
STEVE SWANSON&lt;/strong&gt;: Never commit somewhere unless you have all the information
about the school, the soccer program. There are a lot of players out there who have
made those commitments early and are very happy. But I think what&amp;rsquo;s happening
is there are a lot of players that are equally unhappy. 
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
If a coach really wants you, they&amp;rsquo;re going to wait for you.
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  <entry>
    <title>Ask Pat: Bringing Your A-Game to College</title>
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    <published>2012-11-26T07:19:16.349-05:00</published>
    <updated>2012-11-26T07:44:17.9305126-05:00</updated>
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      <name>Kaushalam</name>
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          <strong>by Pat Grecco</strong>
          <br />
          <br />
College bound student-athletes, whether you are an entering freshman or a returning
college varsity player, be fit, be<img align="right" alt="" border="3" height="153" hspace="10" src="/images/ContentImage/Dribbling(2).jpg" style="border: 3px solid;" vspace="10" width="250" /> ready,and
be informed. I have discovered that unless you sign a Letter of Intent with an NCAA
D-I, D-II or NAIA college, you are not guaranteed a spot on the varsity roster. Those
who sign a Letter of Intent are student-athletes who received athletic grants, otherwise
known as athletic scholarships.<br /><br />
Recently, two players I was working with went off to play Soccer at a D-III program.
Prior to beginning school, they were wooed and pursued by the college coach and received
a substantial amount of academic money from the university. However, upon arriving
at preseason practice they found that there were 14 freshmen recruited just like they
were, and that the coach could only fill 5 varsity spots. Neither of these players
made varsity, there was no JV program, and they were placed on a reserve "team" of
8 players. I find this scenario to be happening more often than I would like to admit.
I call this the "cherry picking method" of recruiting. 
<br /><br />
A female player I know went off to a D-I school where no athletic grant in aid was
offered to her. After going through preseason she wound up being cut and heartbroken.
I intervened and spoke to the coach, who insisted she did tell the player that she
would have to "try out" for a spot on the roster, though the player insisted she did
not hear her say that. The lesson? Be sure to listen and ask questions. 
<br /><br />
Bringing your "A" Game to college as an entering freshman is of the utmost importance.
A coach that has not seen you compete, or mentions that you will be a "preferred walk-on"
is simply telling you that you are not getting any money and are not guaranteed a
spot on the team. 
<br /><br /><img align="left" alt="" border="3" height="123" hspace="10" src="/images/ContentImage/soccer_kickoff(2).jpg" style="border: 3px solid;" vspace="10" width="200" />Of
course, there is the other side of this scenario to deal with as well. If you were
recruited and you received athletic scholarship money, but you arrived to preseason
unfit and did not follow the work out program the coach sent you during the summer
months, your position could be in jeopardy as well. You will be on the team, but most
likely watching the game from the bench. Returning varsity players must also be aware
that they are competing for their position every year. Coaches at competitive programs
are constantly trying to improve their team and raise the talent level of their roster.
As new, talented players are recruited each year, returning players must be fit and
ready for preseason in order to hold on to their spot. 
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It is important to consider several important factors when picking a school. When
selecting the best school for you, consider academics, affordability, social fit,
and lastly, your sport. Be sure to ask yourself the big question, "If I could never
play my soccer again, would I choose this school?" 
<br /><br />
How can you make sure that you are a good fit for the school and the team? Communication
is key! Review this matter with the coach that is recruiting you and your parents.
Ask questions like:
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* Coach, have you seen me play? 
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* Do you feel I'm at the level to compete on your team?
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* Do I have a spot on the varsity team? 
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* Will I be an impact-type player for your program or will I challenge for a position? 
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* Will I be receiving an athletic grant in aid, AKA scholarship? 
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          <br />
Finally, when visiting with the coach in his office, perhaps during your official
visit, have your parents present and listen to what coach is telling you with both
ears. In other words, ask the big questions: Am I being recruited for a roster spot
or am I invited to tryout during preseason?<br /><br />
Be fit, be informed, and make good choices. 
<br /><br />
If you would like to discuss this further, please contact me at <a href="mailto:soccervol@aol.com">soccervol@aol.com</a><br /><br /><br /><br /></p>
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    <title>The College Soccer Report</title>
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    <published>2012-10-01T10:56:20.832-04:00</published>
    <updated>2012-10-01T10:56:20.8322505-04:00</updated>
    <category term="Akron" label="Akron" scheme="http://blog.lijsoccer.com/CategoryView,category,Akron.aspx" />
    <category term="college soccer" label="college soccer" scheme="http://blog.lijsoccer.com/CategoryView,category,collegeSoccer.aspx" />
    <category term="Hofstra" label="Hofstra" scheme="http://blog.lijsoccer.com/CategoryView,category,Hofstra.aspx" />
    <category term="Indiana" label="Indiana" scheme="http://blog.lijsoccer.com/CategoryView,category,Indiana.aspx" />
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    <category term="Lulu Echeverry" label="Lulu Echeverry" scheme="http://blog.lijsoccer.com/CategoryView,category,LuluEcheverry.aspx" />
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    <category term="men&amp;#39;s soccer" label="men&amp;#39;s soccer" scheme="http://blog.lijsoccer.com/CategoryView,category,mensSoccer.aspx" />
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    <category term="Seton Hall" label="Seton Hall" scheme="http://blog.lijsoccer.com/CategoryView,category,SetonHall.aspx" />
    <category term="St. John&amp;#39;s" label="St. John&amp;#39;s" scheme="http://blog.lijsoccer.com/CategoryView,category,StJohns.aspx" />
    <category term="Stony Brook" label="Stony Brook" scheme="http://blog.lijsoccer.com/CategoryView,category,StonyBrook.aspx" />
    <category term="UC Santa Barbara" label="UC Santa Barbara" scheme="http://blog.lijsoccer.com/CategoryView,category,UCSantaBarbara.aspx" />
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Things are falling into place among the ranked teams in both the men’s and women’s
polls, and for those who are looking for a game to see in person, the local Division
I teams are playing well and competing with quality opponents.<br /><br /><u><strong>Men</strong></u><br />
As the season enters October, the rankings seem to have settled down as teams get
in a groove and fall into place. #1<img align="right" alt="" border="3" height="283" hspace="10" src="/images/ContentImage/UConn(1).jpg" style="border: 3px solid;" vspace="10" width="200" /> Maryland
had to overcome a 2-1 deficit to College of Charleston in the second half, but emerged
with a 3-2 victory and a firm hold on the top of the rankings. Connecticut hosted
Notre Dame in front of over 5,000 fan and emerged with a 2-1 victory, their 32nd straight
at home. That is the 7th-longest such streak in NCAA history. Akron cruised to a 4-0
win over Buffalo to secure their spot as the #3 team in the country, while #5 Santa
Barbara beat UC Riverside, 3-1 in their conference opener.<br /><br />
In other Top 25 news, #7 Marquette beat Providence in their Big East opener to stretch
their win streak to 10 games. Meanwhile. Cornell, who has risen to #23 in the polls
on the back of a 9-0-0 start, scored three goals in a win over Penn. That gave the
Big Red 26 goals on the season, one more than they scored ALL of last season!!<br /><br />
Potential fallers in the poll this week could include #14 Creighton, who didn’t score
a goal this week in losses to Tulsa and Drake. They had already fallen from #11 last
week and could continue to slide. Penn State lost a tough 1-0 decision to #10 Indiana
in the Big Ten opener, but a 1-0 loss to Lehigh will hurt.<br /><br />
Locally, #19 St. John’s outscored opponents 5-1 in wins over Columbia and DePaul after
a tough week last week. Though neither team is ranked, getting back on the winning
side of things could push them back to their #13 ranking of a week ago. Speaking of
winning ways, Stony Brook has run their unbeaten streak to six games after a 1-0 win
over Albany over the weekend. Hofstra wasn’t so fortunate, dropping a 3-2 decision
to UNC Wilmington. Long Islander Adam Janokowski (Coram) made four saves in the game.<br /><br /><u><strong>Women</strong></u><br />
In women’s soccer, simply put, the ACC rules! Five of the top ten teams in the country
hail from the Atlantic Cost, including #1 Florida State, #3 Virginia, and #5 Duke.
The PAC-12 isn’t far behind with Stanford (#2) and UCLA (#4) also in the top 5. The
Seminoles boosted their record to 11-0-0 with a 2-0 win at N.C. State. The Cardinal
is also unbeaten after a close call with Oregon this week. Virginia packed over 1,500
fans into Kloeckner Stadium for their 1-0 win over Duke, giving the Cavs their first
win over a ranked team this season and boosting their overall mark to 10-2-1.<br /><br /><img align="left" alt="" border="3" height="140" hspace="10" src="/images/ContentImage/sju women.jpg" style="border: 3px solid;" vspace="10" width="250" />Fallers
could include #12 Oregon State, who lost 3-1 to Cal, #14 BC, who lost at home to Pepperdine,
and #10 Maryland, who dropped a 1-0 decision to Virginia Tech. 
<br /><br />
Still others are climbing up the polls thanks to prolific offense. Georgetown got
five goals from Soph Daphne Corboz in an 8-0 win over Pitt in the Big East. Marquette
scored seven goals in two games, defeating Louisville and Cincinnati, also in Big
East conference play. Memphis tallied nine times in wins over East Carolina and Marshall
as well.<br /><br />
In local action, the Stony Brook women went 1-1 as they opened America East Conference
play, dropping the opener to Albany before topping Binghamton. St. John’s sophomore
and Bohemia, NY native Deanna Murino (Connetquot HS) scored her first game-winning
goal for the Johnnies in a 1-0 defeat of Rutgers. St. John’s then blanked Seton Hall,
4-0. Senior Megan Klement, a defender, scored her first career goal in the contest.
Junior Jen Gibbons, a Bellport HS grad also had a goal. Over at Hofstra, LIers Jill
Mulholland (Levittown) and Lulu Echeverry (East Meadow) continued their strong play
with goals in a 3-1 win over James Madison<br /><br /></p>
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    <title>LIJSoccer Blog: The College Soccer Report</title>
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    <published>2012-09-26T12:20:07.0215106-04:00</published>
    <updated>2012-09-26T12:20:07.0215106-04:00</updated>
    <category term="college soccer" label="college soccer" scheme="http://blog.lijsoccer.com/CategoryView,category,collegeSoccer.aspx" />
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    <category term="North Carolina Tar Heels" label="North Carolina Tar Heels" scheme="http://blog.lijsoccer.com/CategoryView,category,NorthCarolinaTarHeels.aspx" />
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Florida State remains unbeaten and untied atop the national polls for the women, and
men&amp;rsquo;s #1 Maryland also stayed perfect as ACC competition kicked into full swing
this week. However, as usual, the Top 25 didn&amp;rsquo;t go unscathed this week as several
top tier teams took a tumble. Though the perennially strong programs still hold strong,
parity is becoming a household word in the world of college soccer.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;Men&lt;/strong&gt;
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Only four men&amp;rsquo;s teams remain unbeaten and untied as we head towards the end
of September (#10 Marquette, #25 Cornell,&lt;img align="right" alt="" border="3" height="120" hspace="10" src="/images/ContentImage/Hofstra Men.jpg" style="border: 3px solid;" vspace="10" width="200" /&gt; #25
UC Riverside, and High Point). The biggest upset this week came in #2 Notre Dame&amp;rsquo;s
2-1 loss to Big East rival Louisville. It was their first blemish of the season. #3
Old Dominion&amp;rsquo;s 4-1 loss to Drexel in their CAA conference opener was also a
shocker, but #6 Charlotte, #11 Creighton, #20 Dayton, and #22 NC State also lost to
unranked opponents, sending the top 25 into a bit of a tumult.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Locally, #13 St. John&amp;rsquo;s got all it could handle in a 3-0 loss at UConn in their
Big East opener. For the Huskies, it was revenge for a 1-0 loss to the Johnnies in
last year&amp;rsquo;s Big East final at Red Bulls Arena. You could tell the game meant
something to both teams as the match featured 27 fouls, five yellow cards and a red
card for St. John&amp;rsquo;s.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
The Hofstra men are 6-1-1 in non-league play after topping Jacksonville 3-1 this week.
They now head into the meat of their conference schedule with a game against UNC-Wilmington.
Massapequa&amp;rsquo;s Mike Annarumma scored his first goal of the season against the
Dolphins, North Babylon&amp;rsquo;s Tyler Botte picked up an assist, and senior goalkeeper
Adam Janowski of Coram made four saves.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;Women&lt;/strong&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;img align="left" alt="" border="3" height="128" hspace="10" src="/images/ContentImage/Stony Brook Women.jpg" style="border: 3px solid;" vspace="10" width="200" /&gt;While
the Maryland men have been the story in the early season, no one should be falling
asleep on the Lady Terps. The team, which is playing nine freshmen and two sophomores
on a regular basis, is unbeaten in North Carolina (beat UNC, tied Duke, and beat Wake
Forest this week) and in first place in the powerful ACC conference. Senior Becky
Kaplan and junior Hayley Brock have led the way for this young group, accounting for
15 of the Terps 23 goals on the season.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Another team making some noise on the national scene is West Virginia. The Mountaineers
beat #8 Oklahoma State on Sunday in their first Big 12 Conference game, giving them
two wins over Top 10 programs this season (#2 Stanford was the other). They could
make their first appearance in the Top 25 this coming week.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
#9 Penn State has gotten off on the right foot in Big Ten play, outscoring opponents
Northwestern and Illinois, 8-1 this week. The scoring surge is led by last year&amp;rsquo;s
national scoring leader Maya Hayes. After posting 31 goals and eight assists a year
ago, Hayes has picked up right where she left off, scoring four goals and two assists
in the last three games.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
On the local scene, Levittown&amp;rsquo;s Jill Mulholland is currently leading the Hofstra
women with 5 goals and 12 points. The Pride are 6-4 as they get set to open conference
play against James Madison this week. It&amp;rsquo;s also been a big couple weeks out
at Stony Brook. Head coach Sue Ryan picked up her 200th career win with a victory
over Manhattan, and the Seawolves have also topped Lehigh and tied Loyola to push
to a 6-2-2 mark on the season. They were ranked 7th regionally for the fourth straight
week. They open conference play on Thursday at 1 pm at Albany.
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